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Pastor Esther Ojeagbase wrote: Three (3) things to use in preventing our Marriage and in our relationship  Preventive maintenance in marriages is very important in other to keep the marriage running and to foresee likely problems in our marriages before they emerge. Marriage is much like a car. It can work absolutely fine until the day it suddenly stop. Outwardly, everything worked and looked fine. But you get up one morning to find the car no longer runs not because of the external look but only because of the internal problem which could have been prevented if maintenance and servicing have been done to the car earlier. This also happens in marriages. Most marital problems could have been prevented with standard preventive maintenance. When things are going good in a marriage we have a tendency to grow lax. After all, things are great! Things are fine! But all the things we did to get the marriage strong we need to continue. It is amazing the efforts that we put into a ...

This Guy Got Divorced And Said This About His Ex-Wife... And I Agree With Him. Gerald Rogers got divorced after 16 years of marriage. Recently he wrote a eye-opening public confession on his blog... after I saw it, I'm totally with him. He writes: ''MARRIAGE ADVICE I WISH I WOULD HAVE HAD: Obviously, I'm not a relationship expert. But there's something about my divorce being finalized this week that gives me perspective of things I wish I would have done different... After losing a woman that I loved, and a marriage of almost 16 years, here's the advice I wish I would have had... 1) Never stop courting. Never stop dating. NEVER EVER take that woman for granted. When you asked her to marry you, you promised to be that man that would OWN HER HEART and to fiercely protect it. This is the most important and sacred treasure you will ever be entrusted with. SHE CHOSE YOU. Never forget that, and NEVER GET LAZY in your love. 2) PROTECT YOUR OWN HEART. Just...

So husbands ought also to love their own wives as their own bodies. He who loves his own wife loves himself; for no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ also does the church, because we are members of His body. - Ephesians 5:25-30 Paul gives husbands far more direction and exhortation than he gives to wives. While wives are supposed to model the church, husbands are given the incredible grace and responsibility of representing Christ. As Christ is the head of the church, husbands are heads and leaders in the home. So what does this look like within the context of a marriage? Husbands are to love their wives, but not in a trite romantic comedy type of way. Rather, husbands love like Jesus, who laid down all His priorities—even His own life—to serve the church. Husbands are supposed to lead their wives in an intentional path to spiritual growth. Leadership in the home is specific. Husbands and fathers will be held responsible for how they h...

  Christy was startled awake when she felt her husband yank her nightgown up and pull her legs apart. She tried to push him off her but he was too strong as he pinned her down to their bed with his body weight.  This wasn’t the first time he forced himself on her but this time was the worst. This night Greg was rougher than usual and Christy felt it would never end. She bit her lips together so she wouldn’t scream. Their little boy was asleep next to her in their bed and all she could think of was “Please God, don’t let him wake up and see this.” The next day Christy had a fat lip, her back ached, and her insides felt raw and bruised. Later that evening she tried to talk to Greg about what happened but he blamed her. He told her if she wasn’t such a prude, then maybe they would have a spicier sex life. Christy didn’t see herself as a sexual prude, but she did think she ought to have a choice. She didn’t think she should feel afraid of her husband or of sleeping in her own b...

In some ways, whom you choose to marry is a matter of right or wrong. Spiritual wisdom comes from God, but in many ways, the decision requires considerable judgment - not necessarily absolute rights or wrong but I believe it is important to have wisdom and consider the advice of elderly ones around you. That was why Solomon told his son when advising him about relationships with women to pay attention to wisdom and preserve discretion. Proverbs 5:1-2.  Choose A Companion Based On Character, Not Emotions. Genesis 24 - Abraham's servant found a wife for Isaac. The couple never met till their wedding. And the specific choice was arranged by God (verse 50 & 51), which cannot be done today. But Abraham insisted that the bride come from his family so he knew her background, not from the wicked people of the land. And the decision was made by a man of wise judgment who entreated the blessing of God. Genesis 29 - Jacob also went back to his mother's family to find ...

And in the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. - Abraham Lincoln What will your life count for, what impact have you made to lives in advancing God's kingdom. Remember the poor, destitute, sick, emotional hurting in your sphere of life.  If you know lady going through any of the following difficulties as seen below, advice them to contact this no, 08094465455,  A special group of women, which provides prayers and prophetic intervention will take up their issues and by the power of God, everyone will receive instant deliverance.  I happen to be part of that team and witnessed lots of miracles, just yesterday, a lady who contacted the group and reported the fact that she was admitted for critical high blood pressure was immediately discharged in a matter of hours after contacting this great army of God.  Don't cry and die in silence, reach out to this praying women and receive your deliverance from...

When we feel emotionally threatened in our marriage, we can build walls, too. Not physical walls, but relational walls that are expressed in body language, words and attitudes that help us feel safe. The problem is that those walls don't allow our spouse into the deepest parts of our hearts and minds, and the emotional distance can cause problems. What you might see. When your spouse feels threatened, he or she may appear confrontational or argumentative. He or she might build a wall by belittling you, using sarcasm, criticizing or becoming verbally defensive. Some people are aggressive and jealous. They often appear controlling, domineering and selfish. What you might feel. Your response to any of the actions above may be feelings of loss, hurt or anger. If your spouse is working lots of extra hours or overindulging in a hobby, you could feel that your relationship lacks intimacy or friendship. When your spouse is emotionally checked out or withdrawn and prone to stonewallin...

The proper place for sex is between a husband and wife. Outside of that relationship, sex is destructive to you and to others, just like an out of control fire. “Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body. Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body.” 1 Corinthians 6:18-20 A fire provides warmth, light and comfort. But if a fire gets out of control, it can destroy your home, your possessions and even your life. Sex is a lot like that. The proper place for sex is between a husband and wife. Outside of that relationship, sex is destructive to you and to others, just like an out of control fire. Here are 3 important reasons to avoid sexual sin. 1. Sex Affects Our Body, Mind and Spirit God created us with a body, a mind and a spirit....

Sonia King wrote: When I was a kid, my Mom liked to make breakfast food for dinner every now and then. And I remember one night in particular when she had made dinner after a long, hard day at work. On that evening so long ago, my Mom placed a plate of eggs, sausage and extremely burned biscuits in front of my dad. I remember waiting to see if anyone noticed! Yet all dad did was reached for his biscuit, smile at my Mom and ask me how my day was at school. I don’t remember what I told him that night, but I do remember watching him smear butter and jelly on that biscuit and eat every bite! When I got up from the table that evening, I remember hearing my Mom apologize to my dad for burning the biscuits. And I’ll never forget what he said: “Honey, I love burned biscuits.” Later that night, I went to kiss Daddy good night and I asked him if he really liked his biscuits burned. He wrapped me in his arms and said, “Your Momma put in a hard day at work today and she’s real tired. And bes...

We are happy to welcome you, our esteemed readers, on board as we ride-on on this week's Saturday special, after missing out on last week edition. For the next few weeks, we shall be dealing with a crucial question in courtship, and we shall give you reasons why you are not expected to act as a wife when you are just a fiancee and why you must not stop praying even after you have been connected to the man of your choice... Happy reading...  John and Jane have broken up! After 2yrs, Peter and Phebe just broke up last week! He came back from service last year and that was it: 3yrs courtship, turn to shreds! Solomon finally wrote from Canada, only for him to declare that he was no long interested.  Am sure you are familiar with these stories. They seem to be happening everyday and if you are in courtship with a brother/guy right now, you would agree with me that there's a good reason for the question : ARE YOU SURE?  Gone are those days when a lady can relax once sh...

Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; Ephesians 5:25 KJV "This is what I love about you" In the beginning you love everything about him. You are captivated by his six pack, his spirit of adventure, and his lion’s heart. In the beginning you love everything about her. You go crazy with the swing of her hips, a wink or a chewy chocolate cake baked especially for you. One day you wake up. Daily routine has shattered your rose-tinted glasses. “His six pack is not so hot anymore, instead his joints creak with every move.” Or: “It would be better if she swung her hips into a gym one of these days.” You realize: “My partner has changed.” Fortunately! He isn’t standing still. The problem is not the change but rather, that you are a creature of habit. It is your task to rediscover your partner and to simultaneously not forget why you went up the aisle with sparkling eyes to marry your bride/groom. MARRIAGE BOOSTER Write d...

Husbands– the Bible clearly states that you are the head of your wife and your home. But do you know that your wife is the “manager” of your home? These roles do not conflict, but instead they complement one another. The phrase “manage is an English translation of the Greek word “Oikodespoteo”, which comes from two Greek words “oikos” (house) and “despoteo” (to rule). This literally means to “to occupy one’s self in the management of a household”. Proverbs 31 shows a wife taking care of all the affairs of the home while her husband Is away. So up to this point we have established two foundational truths about the home that are taught in Scripture. The husband is the head of the home, but the wife is the manager of the home. The wife being manager of the home, is a delegated authority from her husband, but it is an authority that God wants men to give to their wives. Below are ways that you, as a Christian husband can encourage, and delegate the management of your home to your wif...

Christian society has planted the idea that dealing with lust is mostly a male problem, and this is simply not so. During and after my relationship with my ex- boyfriend, the door to lust was knocked wide-open for me to enter. And although it’s been a while since we’ve broken up, I’m still dealing with lust, and such sin could have been avoided had I (and he) been more responsible with certain aspects of affection. We never slept together, but two Christians bent on keeping their virginity can still find ways of releasing their passions. If you’re currently in a relationship, and what you look forward to most is the physical affection, even if you’re not sleeping together, you are in lust, and not love. Looking back, that was clearly the case between my boyfriend and I. At times I did try to restrict the amount of physical affection we had, but most of the time I gave in, which brings me to another point. If some forms of physical affection make you uncomfortable, yet y...

Have you ever seen the sappy Ryan O’Neal/Ali MacGraw movie romance entitled "Love Story"? MacGraw played a character who was dying, and at her bedside O’Neal, choking and tearful, said he was sorry. MacGraw then unloaded a line that has done a lot of damage to relationships and marriages everywhere: “Love means never having to say you’re sorry.” Apologizing is hard work. Apologizing and changing your behaviors is even harder, and what makes it so hard is pride. Dating and marriage always to some degree involve each person’s struggling for control. When your behaviors are driven by pride, you want to win every argument, always be right, see difficulties as your partner’s fault, bring up your partner’s admitted failures of the past, and explain away or deny your own sins and weaknesses. You need other people’s input and critique to know how you sound, how you look, how your actions affect other people. In humility realize that you aren’t quite as brilliant and infallible as...